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So...How's Married Life?


I cannot believe how often I get asked this question! Makes me wonder if there is something I am missing or not doing that I should be doing.

We made it two weeks, so that's good! <-my usual response. I have a hard time being serious about things...I really think it's a coping mechanism. I mean, how do you think people would react if my response was:

Here I am, two weeks into my marriage, up to my eyeballs in schoolwork, my body in a time zone that must be halfway across the earth (thank you night shift), working, schooling, socializing, and attempting to spend just a few minutes a day with my new husband who is in super-farmer mode and also struggles to find time to relax, let alone time to hang out with his new wife.

It's easier to say something smart and laugh lightly. The truth is, I am proud of my two week marriage. Marriage isn't easy and every day should be celebrated. Adam and I both knew what we were getting into when he proposed and I said yes. So these obstacles that will show themselves repeatedly throughout our marriage are very familiar. Do I love the fact that he spends 18 out of 24 hours in the day working? It's not my preference, but I love that he has such a strong work ethic...Does he love the fact that I am going on my 18th year of college (slight exaggeration)? Probably not, but I'm sure he loves the fact that I want to do something more with my life. (I'm putting words in his mouth, but I'm 98% sure he would agree).

My point is this...

Married life is no different than before. We still fight. We still laugh. We still struggle with things. The only difference from today and two and a half weeks ago is our promise to each other. Life as we know it has not changed, but there is a calmness that lies within that lets us know that our love for each other is strengthening, that this fight is temporary, and that our commitment to each other is permanant. To be able to feel this underlying calmness amongst the craziness of our everyday lives is a wonderful blessing.

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  1. MelindaSeptember 23, 2010 at 7:22 AM

    Be Happy its how's married life because it will soon change to, "When are the kids coming?"

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  2. JohannaSeptember 23, 2010 at 7:51 AM

    Sweet post Kari... thanks for sharing :)

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  4. Nate and Jamie Sommer :)September 23, 2010 at 8:37 AM

    Kari, I could not have said it better!!! We wish you and Adam nothing but the best in your marriage and I believe that if you are honest with your self(Like you have been) going into it it gives you a strength that will get you through the current "Fight" and make you stronger in the long run!!! Its all in how you look at things and what you decide you WANT to get from it!!! You and Adam have been a real blessing to Nate and I, especially trying to balance work with social life it is nice to have people that you feel good hanging out with!!!You for sure have a gift for writing!!! Keep it up :)

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  5. amberSeptember 23, 2010 at 9:07 AM

    Great job Kari! You are an awesome person and I really enjoyed reading this post. You have it figured out girl!

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